How Do I Leave My Job-In-A-Box? Part 4 (with Paul Colaianni)

Posted by on Apr 7, 2016 in Creative Inspiration

How Do I Leave My Job-In-A-Box? Part 4 (with Paul Colaianni)

If you’re still not ready to change the landscape of your work or career after reading Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3 of this series, I think you just might be after hearing Paul’s story.

Paul Colaianni has too many vowels in his last name. Why is this important? Well, it’s really not. I’m just a quirky writer and that’s what you get when you read me. What is important is that Paul left his job and is now helping thousands of people like me and you get through challenges in our lives that keep us from growing. He is an empowerment coach and the ever-loving host of The Overwhelmed Brain Podcast.

Paul has one of those stories that resonates with so many of us: He was dedicated to his job, efficient with his time, showed up every day, and was led to believe because he was so amazing, that he would receive rainbows and butterflies from his employer because he was such a damn good worker.

Not so much.

Here’s what happened:

How Do I Leave My Job-In-A-Box? Part 4 (with Paul Colaianni)“I was in IT for most of my life, 27 years,” Paul said. “I did computer work, worked on telephone systems, and wrangled big projects building technology systems for hospitals. Toward the end of my time in IT, I was a sub-contractor.

I happened to be working on a big project in a hospital where the project manager was really impressed with me. He kept making promises that they wanted to hire me full-time. That thrilled me, because it meant a steady income with vacation time and insurance.”

(I bet you already know where this is going…)

“When it came to the end of the project’s completion, I approached the project manager to talk more about bringing me on full-time. Instead of giving me details and specifics to bring me on board, he said,  ‘Just keep an eye on the job boards. It’s possible.’ My heart just sank. Here I was, putting all of my energy into getting this job, believing it was going to happen, and it never did.”

It was a wake-up call. A big one.

“I went home and for a few days I just moped around, unsure of what I was going to do,” Paul said. “For the first time I realized that no one was going to create the path I needed to walk. I had to create it myself. And that was so powerful for me to realize. No job is forever and promises don’t mean anything. People can say something all they want, but it’s never true until it’s true.”

And so he set off to create his own, deliberate life. Paul was always fascinated by human behavior, so it was no surprise when he reignited his expertise in hypnosis, coaching techniques, and brain science to become an empowerment coach. Even when he was still in IT, he snuck away to become a certified hypnotist and study the emotions of people. If it had to do with the human mind and changing it for the better, Paul was all in.

How Do I Leave My Job-In-A-Box? Part 4 with Paul Colaianni“Learning about the brain is so fascinating because a lot of it is very similar to the digital logic of computer circuitry. We are emotional beings, and for us it always comes down to the decisions we make. Our decisions will either take us in one direction or another. Computers work the same way. They’re decision-making machines and so are we.”

So what shifted in his own brain that caused him to make the very bold decision to leave his job and start his own creative entrepreneurial journey? And what can he offer others to help them do the same? Here are three tips Paul shared to get us up and out of the job we don’t love:

 

1) How much time do you spend doing what you don’t like?

“Take a pen and paper and figure out what percentage of your day you’re doing something you don’t like. Now figure out the same thing, but for a whole year. If you’ve spent 60-80% of your time doing something you don’t like, you need to really think about that. Is this what your life is all about? Doing something you don’t like 60-80% of the time?”

 

2)  List what you value most about work and career.

“Create a list of things you want to have or experience with your work. For example, I want to be respected. If my boss disrespects me, that violates my values. Yours could be: not working weekends, making lots of money, having more fun, even working from home. Now put those values in a hierarchy. Whatever the most important value is, stay in alignment with that value so you enjoy what you do always. The more you enjoy what you do, the more you’ll want to do it and the better you’ll be at it.”


3)  If you feel something call to you, do it.

“If there is something you love doing, like drawing or knitting, you’ve got to start doing it. Once a day, at least. Start doing something towards it. See your lighthouse at the shore and keep going in that direction. If you say you don’t have time, find the time. If you really want it, you’ll find the time. Even if that means taking your notebook into the bathroom and writing ideas down while everyone is asleep.”

How Do I Leave My Job-In-A-Box? Part 4 with Paul ColaianniNo seed will blossom unless you plant it. By doing these three things, Pauls says you start planting, even in your unconscious mind. Before you know it, ideas will come out of the blue. You’ll know what to do. And then you’ll take the steps to start doing them.

Finally, if you’re unsure of what you want, Paul further encourages the idea of writing things down. (Karen Kalis told us the same thing in
Part 1, So there is definitely some weight to this idea.)

He also said, “Think about something you can talk about for hours. Something that gets you excited. That ‘thing’ is a place to start. This is where your passion comes alive. And people love following people with passion.”

I have to say that he is right. I talk about designing your own life and taking your voice back all the time. I write about it all the time. And now it’s my life’s work. Find your idea and your passion and make it your life’s work. We’ll always be right here with you.

Wanna learn more about this courageous coach? Visit Paul at his site and listen to his killer Podcast, The Overwhelmed Brain.

Or, find him on Twitter.

(Catch up with Part 1, Part 2, Part 3.)

{Did you relate to this? Please comment and share below. We love comments.}

Joleene Moody is a former television reporter and anchor turned freelance writer, blogger, and speaker, based in Central New York.
(No, not New York City. Not even close. 🙂
 )
Learn more at www.takeyourvoiceback.com

 

13 Comments

  1. The second paragraph had me laughing out loud! 😀 I love this article and will be sharing it with everyone I know (and more that I don’t know). Thanks for reaching out and letting me be a part of this wonderful series. I truly enjoyed reading everyone’s stories!

    • PAUL! You’ve got personality, my friend. I had to convey that. 🙂
      Thank YOU for being such a willing participant. It was a lot of fun to write.
      We appreciate your feedback in our little community.

      • Love what you’re bringing into the world. Thank you again Joleene, reach out anytime!

    • Thanks Paul. Great story.

  2. What a pleasure this series has been to read! Thank you so much for your humor and your powerful information. All of your interviews had great things to share.

    • Sasha, I am equally grateful for your presence and all the times you show up here to share your voice. It’s people like you that make this blog so enjoyable!

  3. Good advice and a great story. Thanks for the entire series, Joleene

    • You are so very welcome, Matthew. I appreciate you taking the time to ingest and share! Always a pleasure having you as part of our community. 🙂

    • Thank you Matthew. Appreciate you taking the time to comment.

  4. When I was first married at a young age, my husband was offered a job in Fla. It sounded viable, so I quit my REALLY GOOD job, we packed up, and sold what we couldn’t take, much of it his g’mother’s antiques, mind you, and went on our way. Boy, were we naive! The job never materialized F/T as he was promised, and we were back living with his parents, after only 3 mos. of trying to find other work there. Hard lesson to learn, and it wasn’t cheap, either. Getting re-established and new jobs for both of us was not easy, but we did it. Paul, and you, are absolutely right about creating your own path.

    • We really have to create our own path. I firmly believe we rely too much on the “mold” that our culture expects us to fit ourselves in. There’s nothing wrong with being part of a job you love – but when it starts taking away from all the right reasons to live, it’s time to go.
      Always so good to hear from you, Linda. 🙂

    • Wow, that must have been quite a learning experience! Excellent share, thank you so much. 🙂

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